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Glenn Devey
If you're a guy in the process of getting over your ex girlfriend, who finds that he's prone to bursts of jealousy, you don't need to be told how hurtful it is. Luckily help is at hand, and it just needs these two simple steps to be put in place to have it disappear for good. 1. Remove yourself from all situations that are likely to put you in a jealous state. Sounds obvious, but how many people resort to almost stalking their ex to find out what she's up to, and with whom? If you've fallen into a pattern of behaviour like this, it needs to stop and stop right now. It's not helping anyone. If you need to, change gyms, bars, clubs, libraries or whatever place it is that you both still frequent. You'll meet lots of new people in the process too. Change your online hangout places too - remove her from your Facebook and LinkedIn contacts and delete her number from any quick dial or phone memory storage. 2. If you get an image inside your head that makes you jealous, run this pattern to get rid of it. You need to imagine that there's a movie theatre inside your head, and you're sitting in it watching the internal film that's causing you a problem and stopping you from getting over your ex girlfriend. a) Get the problem image - the one that causes you to the feel most jealous about her up on the screen. It can be moving or a still. b) Now imagine that there's a huge brightness control on your armrest, and every time the offending scene gets shown, turn the brightness up until the screen has gone completely white-out. c) Repeat this as many times as you need to until you can't see the shot anymore - all you get is a white screen, preferably with white noise playing in the speakers. d) Try also changing the angle that you view it from. Some guys find that changing the viewing angle to 45 degrees or something different makes it have less impact. Speed is the key to making this work - the faster you run it the better. Actually, if you think you're going too quickly, then you're doing it correctly. You're literally re-programming your brain to replace the offending image with one that just isn't watchable. If you do it enough times, it will become automatic - similar to learning the chorus of a new song. Do it at least ten times without stopping and then see if you can get the old image back again - you'll probably find that it's much harder to do. Just like working out, doing ten reps of these per day will make it impossible to watch after a couple of days. Freedom!!! Getting over your ex girlfriend is tough enough, without showing yourself horror films over and over again inside your own head. Give it a go, it's your brain and your movie - make it your slave, not your master.
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