| By :
Glenn Devey
Whilst each year is comprised of four seasons, the fantastic motivational speaker Jim Rohn thought that there were four seasons in life too. I'm guessing it feels like Winter at the moment, even if you're in Hawaii. I wonder of we can speed things up and get to Spring a little quicker? Anyway, if you're a guy who's in the process of getting over an ex girlfriend, here are four tried and tested tips to help speed you on your way. 1. View each other as equals who simply parted and went off on different paths. Hopefully you were equals within the relationship; if you weren't maybe it was good to part company anyway. After the break-up it's easy for one party to lower either their partners or their own worth in an attempt to feel better in some way about what happened. An example of this could be that you think that she's on a pedestal and you weren't worthy of her love and attention. Or maybe you've taken to thinking that she's evil, heartless and spiteful for doing what she did and that you are an angel. In either case, none of them are true or more importantly, useful. Shakespeare once said "Nothing is good or bad, except thinking makes it so." Hold your head up high and walk away as adults without any judgement. It is what it is, and you'll be better off believing so in the long run. 2. Don't contact her. This isn't going to be good for you or her. If she's explicitly said that it's over, then hanging on to the last threads of contact won't make her happy and it won't help your self esteem either, as you'll risk getting rejected again. If you must have "one last try" then do so, but if not successful resolve that it's over and don't go back over old ground again. If not for your sake then for mine. 3. Change the places you hang out. These days it's not just your physical haunts that you need to freshen up, it's your online presence too. Yes, you need to go to different bars, change gyms or wherever you spend your time. Removing any lingering reminders of her and the time you spent together will help you to move on quicker. There's also less chance of seeing her out with a new partner, which is never fun. This might be a good time to ponder whether or not to keep any Facebook connections in place too? Is it really helpful to see what she's up to after you've gone? 4. Make this an opportunity to do something you've secretly wanted to do for ages. Seriously guys, the world is a huge place full of interesting people, places and things to do. The wisdom of the world is at your fingertips - try something new. Just out of interest, Professor Richard Wiseman conducted an online survey with Sam Murphy of 6000 people, to find out which sporting activities the opposite sex found most attractive. Like to know what they were? The girls showed a preference for their guys to be involved with: 1) Climbing 57%
2) Extreme sports 56%
3) Football 52%
4) Hiking 51% Sorry to any sweaty golfers, but Golf and Aerobics came last. Now surely there's got to be a new hobby, a way to keep fit and impress your next potential mate out of that lot? Getting over ex girlfriends isn't always bad; for lots of men it became a turning point that launched them forwards into new and exciting chapters in all parts of their lives.
|
![[Valid RSS feed]](http://www.articlesbacklink.com/images/icon_Rss.png "XML Feed For RSS"){kind=icon}
Category Rss Feed
Print This Article
Add To Favorites
