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Glenn Devey
Getting over an ex girlfriend is obviously possible, but you can be sure that along the way it's going to be a bumpy ride. Guys often feel bad because they've lost control of a situation that they at least had a 50:50 share in. Then suddenly someone took 100% control of it and it turned out badly for them. Whatever's been violated for you, there is something that you can do to get back some control of the situation. I guess I should explain what's meant by taking control of the situation. It has nothing to do with her, and everything to do with you. Whilst you can't control what other people do and say to you, you can always control your responses to it. It's called: "E Plus R equals O" or, Events plus your Responses gives you an Outcome. You've broken up with her or been dumped - you can't control that. But the thoughts you have, the feelings you experience and the things that you spend your time doing are completely within your own control. Just stop for a moment and ask whether you're helping yourself? You made a great choice by deciding to read this article, but this aside, have you been "driving your own bus"? If you've made her responsible for your own happiness, or resorted to thinking that she's made you feel a certain way or think certain things, you're on the wrong side of the cause and effect equation. Realising that you now have more choices than ever before is a liberating thought. What opportunities do you now have that previously weren't available? What can you put an end to that you hated doing? What things are possible that maybe you've put off for too long? Putting a different spin on the situation and understanding that what happens from here is up to you, can be a life changing perspective. When you live, sleep eat and breathe it as the truth, there are multiple benefits to be had. 1. When you accept responsibility for where you are, you realise that you can change it any time you want to. 2. You'll never have another bad day in your life, because it's always in your control. 3. More people will be attracted to you. 4. You'll inspire and stand out as a role model for others. 5. You'll have uncovered the secret to a long and happy life. Too many people are waiting for someone else to come along and rescue them, to make them happy or show them the way to fame and fortune. Sadly they find out too late that the cavalry isn't coming, and it's all down to them. The quicker we all begin to demonstrate this principle in our daily lives, the better it'll be for everyone. Sure, it's hard at first and easier said than done, but believe me, if you don't take control of the situation you'll find out the hard way that no-one else is coming to hand it to you. Getting over an ex girlfriend starts and ends with you.
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