When you have children, you need to realize what a serious responsibility it is to influence another life. The hardest thing about being a parent, is no matter what you teach your children, good or bad, it will influence them for the rest of their lives. To be a good parent, it is essential to have common sense, and many parents don't have it. Good parenting can basically be defined as good common sense. So much is passed along from parents to children, and the manner in which a child is raised is very often how that child's parents were raised. If you are aware of the bad things that your parents did with your upbringing, it is conceivable that the cycle of bad parenting can be altered.
When dealing with your children, the attitude you have when talking to them is as important as the words you speak. Life is very difficult and stressful, and even more so with children, so it will take a concerted effort to not put your stress on them. If you are angry, just as an example, about your day at work, then if you show that anger to your child it will cause a certain amount of confusion. Anytime that you take your anger out on your children, it will affect them, and also stick with them. It doesn't matter what your situation, things happen to give you an attitude that you can put on your children. When dealing with your children, keep from communicating with them with the same attitudes that you thought were wrong with your own parents. Of course it is quite typical for a teenager to hang out with their friends rather than spend family time together. This is only a fraction of the process involving their search for self-reliance and liberty. Making teenage children choose a family outing over spending time with their pals could be explosive. It all boils down to insurmountable odds if you attempt "winning" any quarrels. You should be aware that the turmoil your child may be in is typical as long as there are no other unexpected conditions.
Every parent only wants what's best for their children, which is natural. But remember to practice as much healthy parenting as possible. Be careful that you do not set your children up by establishing impossible goals or expectations that are too high in an unhealthy way. Your child's competence plays a big part in defining that balance that you must strike when being a parent. So just try to assess your child the best you can, and expect good things but not so much that it causes undue stress and anxiety.
Being a parent is mainly an on-the-job training position, where you learn daily through your mistakes. Not knowing how to be a parent, doesn't mean that you can't learn.
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