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Mark Shapiro
I am a judgment broker who writes a lot. I assert: It is better to feel rich than to be rich. It is better to feel ok than to be ok. It is better to feel happy than to actually be happy. This article explains why I feel confident in making these claims. Change is constant, and to some degree, in some way or the other; all things are temporary and fragile. Nothing is guaranteed or lasts forever. An unlikely, however really clear example is, what if you are really ok in every way, yet a meteorite then falls from the sky and hits you? I assert that it is better to feel ok, than it is to "actually" be ok. Actually being ok (when judged by your imagination, or by an outside society/media standard), depends on everything, starting with your health, avoiding severe pain, and having sufficient money. When everything is going well, you're really ok in real life, yet someday, some of your actual reality won't be "ok" as defined by external or imagined standards. Feeling good could be your choice which doesn't rely on your situation. If you are ok with everything, you tend to suffer less. In life, pain is mandatory, and suffering is optional. Feeling ok always make you happier, than wondering if you actually are ok. Why worry about if you really are now, and are going to remain ok? Actually being ok is not as solid or reliable, as purposely feeling you are ok is. It's better to feel ok, than to be ok. I assert that its better to feel rich than it is to actually be rich. Probably 99 percent of the people in our world thinks and feels they do not have enough money. That means there may be a 99 percent chance you won't actually be "ok" money-wise, in actual life. However, what if you constantly felt like you had lots of of money? You could then use your time attempting to make money, save money, and pay bills. You will feel a lot better feeling rich, than if you constantly worry about your bills and debts. I think about paying bills only when I pay them. When I think about money, I focus only on making and saving money. For me, it is a fun hobby. This type of thinking lets me feel ok about money, and stop worrying. I claim that its better to feel happy than to actually be happy. Many people seem to be mirrors of their situations. If they are sick, poor, old, or lonely, they stay sad. If and when something great happens, they get temporarily happy. There are 2 ways to get happier. One way depends on everything or something being or being right. Another way to be happier is to detach a bit, and feel happy no matter what is going on. Feeling happy when the world is not, is a learned skill. For me, meditation helps, you must follow your own path. Ideally, you may learn to enjoy your work or your situation, or how to enjoy them more. Thinking "Am I happy?", or predicting a time or event that makes you happy, is almost a complete waste of time. It's better to invent happiness, imagine happiness, or create happiness out of thin air, and then focus on on what you do, not on what the world does. Worrying is ineffectual. When you can effect the outcome for the positive, then act. If you can't, then accept you cannot, and then hope for the best. An interesting talk about happiness, is at http://www.ted.com/talks/dan_gilbert_asks_why_are_we_happy.html.
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