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Ray Dickson
Many parents think that child punishment is the only effective technique for changing the behavior of their children. However, many experts oppose this concept, and endorse other discipline techniques instead. They believe that these alternative methods are more successful in getting your child's attention, or changing their behavior. What exactly is child punishment? There are two main types. “Positive punishment” is the use of an adverse stimulus, in order to reduce a behavior. That may include hitting or giving your child extra jobs around the house to carry out. On the other hand "negative punishment" involves taking away an enjoyable stimulus, to stop a particular behavior. Examples of this type of punishment removing your child's privileges, such as TV viewing or recess. The problem with punishment is that it can actually worsen your child's behavior, which is a situation you obviously want to avoid. In fact, several of the most regular punishment methods used today are essentially counterproductive, and could negatively control the confidence of your child. Here are some practical ways to change your son's or daughter's behavior, without using punishment: 1. Put yourself in your child's shoes.
Yes, the Golden Rule also applies in the interaction between parents and children. Think about how you would like to be treated if you were in similar circumstances. That will likely encourage you to use disciplining methods besides punishment. 2. Validate the feelings of your child.
You can do this by empathizing with your child's feelings-reminding him or her that you have experienced the same feelings. 3. Provide your child with time.
This could involve a period of time before starting an activity, or give them time to complete an activity. Using this method will help your child to feel more independent. And as a result, he or she will be more cooperative. 4. Give options to your child.
It's been said that controlling your children isn't the same as loving your children. Give meaningful choices to your son or daughter, which will allow your child to have more control of his or her life. These choices are particularly important if your child has recently experienced major changes in his or her life (i.e. moving to a new neighborhood). Obviously, these options should have some limits, since allowing your child to eat candy for breakfast, lunch, and dinner isn't a wise idea. 5. Use time-outs, but include yourself!
Instead of sending your infant to the corner, change your environment by going outdoors. Spend some quality time doing whatever outdoor activities your child enjoys the most. 6. Meet your child's needs.
Often there are times when children misbehave because their needs weren't met. While this doesn't mean that you should pamper your child 100% of the time, you should ask the right questions to determine what caused your child to misbehave. This will help your son or daughter to feel understood and loved. 7. Create a win-win situation for your child whenever possible.
This is basically related to the art of negotiation. Try to resolve conflicts by finding solutions that keep both you and your children happy.
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