By :
Jay Rosensweig
I just came back from having a drink with two very attractive female friends, Jessica and Susan. While watching football, the conversation revolved around what women want in a man, the "nice guy" or the "bad boy." Susan said "all women will say that they want a nice guy, but the truth is that they really want the bad boy. We are just wired for that."
Shortly after a "bad boy type" walked by and Jessica perked up in her seat as if she saw some candy. She then showed me some pictures of her ex and a guy she is kind of dating. Once again they had that "bad boy look." So the crux of the conversation was that women will say they want a nice guy, and they do, but not always. They want a challenge, and want a man to put them in their place at times. They do not want a doormat. This made me think of another personal experience that may explain why a woman went from cursing at me to wanting to kiss me.
About 8 months ago I did a Long Island single mingle at the Cats Meow (now closed). Two women came in and said they were just dropping something off to the bartender and would not be staying, therefore did not want to pay the cover charge. About 40 minutes later I noticed they were mingling with the participants from the event. I approached them and told them that they were welcome to stay, but would have to pay the cover charge like everyone else. This resulted in a shouting match that turned ugly when one woman told me to stick the cover charge up my behind.
I am usually very polite at my events, but this was going to be an exception to that rule. Curses were flying and the shouting got heated. Rather than make any more of a scene, I backed off and went to find the manager. She told me the ladies were personal friends of hers and that the bar would take care of the cover, so I let it go. About 40 minutes later I approached the woman from the shouting match to clear the air, so everyone could enjoy the rest of the night. The next thing I know, this woman tries to kiss me. An hour earlier we were cursing at each other and now she wants to kiss me?
Somehow her attraction switch was flipped on when I showed her that she could not walk all over me. The moral to this story, is that many women will say that they want a nice guy to treat them well, be there for them, and settle down with. The key here is that they want that guy eventually, just not right away. Here is what my friend Fran had to say.
“I always thought I wanted a nice guy but I have to tell you, I honestly believe now that I don't. Every time I meet a nice guy I find something about him that turns me off. I fully believe that I like the challenge of a bad boy and that the nice guy just makes it easy and uneventful if that makes any sense. I've dated this wonderful man about 3 times now and he couldn't be any nicer but...So, I totally agree with your perspective that all women think they want a nice guy but the truth is we do not.”
Author Resource:-
Jay Rosensweig organizes
NY Speed Dating >events and offers an
interesting perspective on the New York;
Singles through his company WeekendDating.com. He can be reached
at 718-757-6933.
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