Don't Say It This Way; Say It That Way

I am going to lose 25 pounds. I am going to stop getting angry so easily. I am going to stop being late all the time.

The sentences above, and many like them, are familiar statements for those who desire to change certain things in their lives. Some call them goals; others refer to them as affirmations. But those statements are actually self defeating and do not produce results.

Our minds are designed to focus on the words we speak, whether silently or out loud. Whether our goals and affirmations are written down, or verbalized, we are telling our minds where to focus. If the focal point of the statement is negative, then that is what our minds seek out.

When I played little league I was not the greatest hitter. In fact, I struck out a lot. I can still to this day hear my coach saying, "Don't strike out!" But that is what I continued to do over and over. Why?

My mind was so focused on the words "striking out." Standing there at home plate with my bat in hand, I would tell myself over and over, "Don't strike out." I didn't realize that I was putting my mental focus and attention on nothing but striking out.

I'm not being critical of my coach. Hey was indeed interested in us winning games and you can't win if players are striking out. But it would have been so much more helpful, and even caused great improvement if he would have said, "Hit the ball."

Do you think that my hitting ability would have improved over time if every single time I was batting my mind was saying, "Hit the ball?" I have no doubt that it would have improved greatly. The same principal is true in the things we desire to see happen in our lives.

Instead of saying, "I am going to lose 25 pounds," why not say, "I am going to weigh 195 pounds." Our minds most often associate losing something with the need to find it. On the other hand, putting our focus on where we want our weight to be directs our minds to arrive at that end.

If you want to stop getting angry, telling yourself that you're going to stop getting angry places all the focus on the anger. You can just as easily tell yourself that you are going to be more peaceful; that you are going to be more in control of your emotions.

Do you find yourself being late most of the time? Telling yourself that you are not going to be late anymore keeps your mental focus on being late. It's so easy, and produces great results[To get better results], tell yourself that you are going to be on time.

We sometimes forget how great and magnificent this brain that God gave us really is. God designed it so that we could use it to it's optimum. But, if we choose to use it backwards, that is certainly not God's fault, is it? Still, plenty of people struggle while praying and wondering why God is not "doing something!"

If you bought a brand new car and decided to drive it in reverse, what kind of results would you get on the road? You would no doubt get a ticket and probably crash into someone. You certainly would not make much progress in getting from one place to another.

Would you then blame the car manufacturer for all your problems? That sounds silly doesn't it? Then why do people who choose to use their brain backwards blame the Creator?

Here is one more helpful point about the things that you tell yourself. It is very important to give your statement a time frame. Someone once said that a goal without a date is only a wish. So include a destination time for your goal or affirmation.

For example, "I am going to weigh 195 pounds by March 1st." Believe it or not, that is a very powerful statement to your brain. It is a very clear statement, but it also carries the urgency of time, and cause the brain to look for a resolution.

Then, repeating this information to your mind alerts your mind that this is something that you not only desire to do, but that it has to be done by a certain date. Your mind will begin to engage and work with you on finding the solution on how to get it done by that date.

Take note of the things you say to yourself about the things you desire. Make sure they are not self defeating, and give them a set time. Then read or repeat your statement often until your brain realizes that you are indeed serious about it.

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