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Glenn Devey
I can remember back to when I was about eleven years old listening to the school principal giving a lecture about "Buying Hyacinths to uplift the soul." I didn't know what Hyacinths were at the time, or where to get them from. Luckily at that age I hadn't properly discovered girls, so my soul was still where it should have been. Maybe he was teaching a lesson about how to get over a break up? So let's address the down days. The days that have you feeling sad for no good reason, apart from the things you've had to deal with. Let me make it clear - I don't mean clinical depression - I'm not qualified to advise you on that, so for professional advice about that topic you need to speak with your physician or GP. What I'm talking about are the days when you're moping around and need cheering up. The secret to breaking this state is to interupt it's routine by changing something. Let's start with making some changes in the area of reminders of her. The things we're interested in fall into two distinct groups: "Stuff" like photographs, ornaments, presents "Channels" like facebook, speed-dial, phonebook memory space, the places you hang out at online. I'm going to challenge you to make some changes in these areas, if you're serious about how to get over a break up. Go through the stuff she got you and get rid of the things you can do without. Obviously if one of those items was a'74 Fender Strat signed by your favourite rock god, you might think twice about it. What I mean is small stuff of low material value but that has a high sentimental attachment. Sort out all of your electronic gadgets and remove her details. If you must keep her number do so, but don't have it on the first page of your phonebook, speed dial or anything else. I'd suggest removing her from your list of facebook contacts as well. This isn't a petty act of defiance or spite, but it won't help you to be constantly pulled back into your old life. Have a real purge on reminders of her in your physical and electronic environment. I want you to now focus on your living environment. It doesn't matter whether you live at home with Mom and Dad, rent or share a room at college or have your own place. Making some changes in what you see, hear and feel around you is going to help. I appreciate there could be limits on this, but here's a few suggestions: Re-arrange your furniture. (Feng Shui optional) Change your pictures or posters Paint the walls Redecorate a complete room Stop listening to music that puts you into a down state - change your tracks Go watch some comedy on DVD or even better, go see it live. Laughter is the best medicine when you're feeling down. Fill your immediate world with stuff that makes you feel good and watch what happens. There are lots more areas to focus on than we've dealt with here, but learning how to get over a break up can start with some easy wins - a few instant successes that you can do without too much thought. Go for some quick ones first, then turn and look inwards and see what needs to change there too.
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